When
Tuesdays at 6pm Pacific
Coaching with Troy every Tuesday, 75 minutes. Q&A with Troy and Naomi every other Saturday at 9:30am Pacific, 75 minutes. Same times, always, so they go in your calendar once.
Attachment coaching with Troy
Stop having
the same fight.
Weekly live coaching for couples and individuals who keep ending up in the same place, and the daily work between sessions that makes the change stick. Your first week is free.
Start my 7 days freeThe Calls
Every week, live, with Troy.
What happens
You watch someone with your pattern get coached
A short teaching on one pattern, then Troy coaches a few people live on real moments from their week. You watch, you take notes, you use the chat. On Q&A Saturdays, Troy and Naomi take your questions together.
Do I have to talk?
No. Most people never do.
If you want to be coached, you send in your moment through the Deepn platform and we pick a few each week. First names only, and you can send it in without your name.
If you miss one
The recording is up within a day
Sorted by the moment it covers, so you can find "they went quiet" or "the fight that never ends" when you need it.
Your Coaches
Troy - FounderNaomi - Co-Owner
Two people who have lived both sides of the healing work.
We're two formerly fearful-avoidant people who actually did the work. Troy leaned avoidant. Naomi leaned anxious. So when we talk about this, we're not speaking from a textbook. We've lived both sides of the cycle, and we know what it feels like to come through it with more honesty, security, and peace.
Christ is at the center of what we're building. This is not just a relationship to us. It's a kingdom union, and that changes how we love, repair, pray, and show up for each other.
Troy brings vision, depth, humor, and a serious walk with the Lord. Naomi brings warmth, support, bold faith, and a deep heart for prayer and intercession. We love to travel, roast each other, and clear a whole evening for Pop the Balloon without apology.
We're not a perfect couple. We're two people who keep putting Christ first, keep doing the work, and want the same kind of healing and wholeness for you.
How A Week Works
One call, then the work that makes it stick.
Step 1
The call
Bring one moment from your week. Leave knowing what to say next time.
Step 2
The daily work
Twenty minutes a day on the Deepn platform: personalized to your answers, with 15+ behavioral tools, going after the wounds under the pattern.
Step 3
Accountability
Daily and weekly check-ins on the platform so the work gets done between sessions. Not a course you forget about by Wednesday.
Step 4
Wins
The next call opens with what changed. Then the next moment.
Who It's For
Built for the exact loop you want to interrupt.
Anxious pattern
Current loop: Overthinking, reassurance chasing, fear of abandonment.
Practical shift: Faster regulation, clearer requests, steadier attachment security.
Avoidant pattern
Current loop: Emotional shutdown, distancing, conflict withdrawal.
Practical shift: Safer vulnerability, cleaner boundaries, healthier closeness.
Fearful-avoidant pattern
Current loop: Push-pull cycles, distrust, rapid switching between pursuit and withdrawal.
Practical shift: More internal stability, calmer repair attempts, better relational discernment.
Secure but partner-confused
Current loop: Repeating conversations without clarity on your partner's emotional pattern.
Practical shift: Better partner insight, better timing, clearer decisions.
Why It Works
This is the chain most people never get taught.
“I know God loves me in my head, but my heart still panics.”
“I keep choosing the same kind of relationship and calling it hope.”
“I fear rejection even when I know I'm accepted by God.”
“I people-please because abandonment feels unbearable.”
Your brain repeats what you practice. Repeated decisions become your default path.
1. Cue / Trigger
Something happens.
2. Core Wound Belief
Old pain tells a story.
3. Thought Stream
Negative thoughts start repeating.
4. Emotional State
Your feelings get heavy fast.
5. Behavior / Decision
You react the way you practiced.
6. Relief / Reward
It eases pain for a moment, then repeats.
Trigger moment: a tone, silence, text delay, conflict, memory, or body sensation.
Belief filter: “I'm not safe,” “I'm too much,” or “I'll be abandoned.”
Thought flood: your subconscious mind repeats the same story thousands of times.
Emotional load: fear, shame, urgency, and disconnection rise quickly.
Automatic reaction: chasing, shutting down, over-explaining, or pleasing.
Short reward: temporary relief or control that quietly reinforces the same loop.
Deepn interrupts the chain: surface the wound, rewire it, choose an opposing action, and repeat daily until it becomes your new pattern.
Renew your mind, and your patterns begin to change.
Member outcomes from the same healing framework
Same principles. Stronger delivery and implementation.
Real responses from members who engaged this same attachment-healing framework. The method is unchanged at the core, now delivered with deeper structure and daily implementation.
“I learned more about my unhealthy attachment style and how it causes me to sabotage relationships. I also learned how to deal with it in healthy and practical ways.”
“What it's giving me is understanding of my behavior and why I respond in certain ways. I feel stronger. Braver.”
“It's a great place to learn about your attachment style and Troy is a great person to learn from.”
“I knew what trauma caused the roadblock, but this gave me a real name for it and actual tools I could apply.”
“The one month in your program helped me make so many connections between my habits, behavior and childhood trauma in ways no therapist ever did.”
What You Get
What you get every week.
Every Tuesday
Live group coaching with Troy
75 minutes. A short teaching on one pattern, then Troy coaches a few people live on real moments from their week. Every other Saturday, Q&A with Troy and Naomi.
Between sessions
The Deepn platform
Personalized daily work built from your answers, 15+ behavioral tools, and daily accountability so the work actually gets done before the next call.
Learning + Tracking
Assessments, courses, and progress
Your attachment style, core wounds, and major needs mapped in week one. 20+ course and walkthrough videos, weekly check-ins, and a dashboard that shows change over time.
Join Attachment Coaching with Troy
One membership. Everything in it.
Your first week is free, and it includes a live call. Cancel before day 7 and pay nothing.
Monthly
$197
Everything below from day one. Cancel any time.
- A live group coaching call with Troy every Tuesday, 75 minutes
- A live Q&A call with Troy and Naomi every other Saturday to work through your specific situation
- Daily and weekly accountability, so the work actually gets done between sessions
- The Deepn platform: personalized daily work built from your own answers, with 15+ behavioral tools
- Your attachment style, core wounds, and major needs mapped in week one
- If you have a partner, go deeper into their pattern too: what sets them off, what they actually need, and how to reach them
- Get better at communicating in conflict every week, with real moments coached live and practiced daily
- Daily insights that explain where your patterns come from
- A guided 12-week journey built around your goals
- 20+ course and walkthrough videos
- A community of couples and individuals doing the same work
Yearly
$1,497
The same membership for a full year. Saves $867 against paying monthly.
- A live group coaching call with Troy every Tuesday, 75 minutes
- A live Q&A call with Troy and Naomi every other Saturday to work through your specific situation
- Daily and weekly accountability, so the work actually gets done between sessions
- The Deepn platform: personalized daily work built from your own answers, with 15+ behavioral tools
- Your attachment style, core wounds, and major needs mapped in week one
- If you have a partner, go deeper into their pattern too: what sets them off, what they actually need, and how to reach them
- Get better at communicating in conflict every week, with real moments coached live and practiced daily
- Daily insights that explain where your patterns come from
- A guided 12-week journey built around your goals
- 20+ course and walkthrough videos
- A community of couples and individuals doing the same work
Doing this with your partner?
Add them right after checkout for $100 a month ($297 total), or $500 a year on the yearly plan. They get their own seat on every call and their own private account, and during your free trial their seat is free too. Two people can't share one login: the second person's answers overwrite the first, and neither of you ends up with anything accurate.
You pick monthly or yearly on the next page, next to the card form. Cancel from your account settings.
Frequently asked questions
Clear answers before you begin.
Is this more faith-based or more psychological?
Both. The coaching is grounded in attachment psychology and how the brain builds habits. If faith is part of your life, there are dedicated tools for that on the platform. If it isn't, nothing is forced on you.
Will this help if I already know a lot but still feel stuck?
Yes. Deepn. is built for the gap between insight and implementation, so you can move from knowing to living the shift daily.
How much time do I need each week?
One 75-minute call with Troy on Tuesday evenings, a 75-minute Q&A with Troy and Naomi every other Saturday morning, and twenty minutes a day on the Deepn platform between sessions.
What if I can't make the call time?
Every call is recorded and posted within a day, and you can send in your moment ahead of time so it can be coached whether or not you're there live. Most members catch about half the calls live.
Is this for couples or individuals?
Both, and most of the room is one or the other. If you come alone, you work on how you show up. If you come together, you each get your own seat and your own private account, and you're on the same calls.
What if I am single and not in a relationship right now?
That is still a strong fit. Deepn. helps you heal core patterns and build secure foundations before future relationship pressure.
What if my partner is not willing to participate?
Start alone. Most people do. The work is on how you react, and your partner feels that change whether or not they ever join.
Is this therapy?
No. Deepn is group attachment coaching with Troy, plus personalized daily work on the Deepn platform between sessions. It is not therapy or medical treatment.
Your Next Step
Come to a call this week. It's free.
7 days free, then $197 a month. Or $1,497 for the year.
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